Why I’m Helping 500 Women This Year
A few days ago, I had a call with a woman who asked me to help her, but I had to turn her down.
We had a great conversation. We had a very open, honest chat, and we connected. She told me about her health goals and we talked about them in detail. She was exhausted, fatigued and drained. Her anxiety was high and she felt bloated and constipated all the time. She wasn’t working anymore as she had to take time off to heal.
She had been telling herself for a year that she needed to find a nutritionist and found me through a FB group she was on, where someone recommended me. We also built up her vision about where she would like to be, the things she will be able to do and the better relationship she’ll have with her husband, her daughter and her friends.
It sounds like the perfect fit, right?
It will be simple, but it won’t be easy
Then I asked her what I ask everyone. On a scale of 1-10, where she was on her desire to achieve her goal. How much does she need this?
See the thing is, and this is the really weird thing about us humans, is that the pain of the problem needs to be greater than the pain of the solution. It needs to be BAD before we are motivated to do something.
Now there are exceptions. Some people are more motivated by the carrot (the ideal of a strong, healthy body), instead of the stick (the need to get away from pain), but in my line of work…it’s usually the latter.
So what answer did she give me?
I’m definitely an 8.She said.
You would think that an 8/10 is quite high, and it is! She was SUFFERING, and, like a lot of women I speak to, she was crying during our conversation. It wrenches my heart to see you suffer, but in my decade-long experience in this work, you are not ready.
It’s like an alcoholic needing to hit rock bottom before they will really change. You have not gotten there yet if you are an 8/10.
When I work with my clients I give them SIMPLE things to do.
I then hold them ACCOUNTABLE and SUPPORT them.
When they are getting in their own way, I CHALLENGE them. They understand WHY they are doing something, so that they are armed with knowledge for future health challenges.
She wasn’t going to be able to lean into that. She wasn’t ready.
Setting goals is the first step
My own goal for the rest of 2022 is to be helping 500 women with pain that is less than a 10/10. I didn’t like to say no to that woman, but I’m not yet set up to help her in the way that she needs.
I’m telling you this because announcing my goal means I’m accountable to you for reaching it.
My 1:1 clients are always a 10/10 in their pain and discomfort. But those women I speak to that are only 8/10 still need to act, but maybe aren’t ready for the intensive work I do with my 1:1 clients.
So my goal is to create a series of online courses that lead women through the work I do with my 1:1 clients. To reach these women through social media, share information on my blog and guide them towards better health and a symptom-free life.
Please, hold me accountable. Challenge me when I get in the way of my own success.Joyce
We all need it.
I hold you accountable, as I share your need for it in life.
My name is Joyce Bergsma and I teach my clients how to understand their bodies and nourish them in the best way possible. I help them on the journey to be symptom free so they are living happier, more fulfilling lives.
But what I ALSO do is act as a cheerleader, a navigator and I hold them accountable.
Book a call TODAY! I’ll help you find freedom in your life.